Of all of the people involved in the Super Bowl yesterday, the one that I would have enjoyed being near the most would have been Mrs. Harbaugh – the mother of both teams’ coaches. Anyone who watched the game last night already knows that the family drama involved in the game itself, so I will not re-hash that. Anyone who did not watch the game would not care.
But – care about this!
While football may not be everyone’s thing, caring about the future generations should be. After hearing and reading about the Harbaughs, their attitude toward the game, and their forward thinking about which son should be their focus after the game, I am so impressed. Good parenting more often than not leads to good outcomes.
If the Harbaugh brothers would take the developmental asset inventory from Search Institute, I am guessing that they would score pretty high. If the Harbaugh family would take the family asset inventory from Search Institute, I am guessing that they would score pretty high.
It does not take a family having loads of money to give their kids an edge.
Families need to invest in their kids, bring other caring adults in to encourage their kids, and provide an environment of high expectations with lots of support. Failures needs to be seen as opportunities to improve. And mistakes need to be corrected. All of this needs to be done in ways that empower children and teens to be better than what they think they can be while helping them to see reality.
As I watched the game last night, I commented that I want to be an NFL kicker.
That is not realistic! I am nearly 39 years old, a woman, not quite five feet tall, and about as un-athletic as they come. This dream needs to be tempered with reality. However, had I wanted to do something big and dreamy like that, I am sure that my parents would have cleared the path for me by making me play football with the boys, making me play soccer, and the like.
The Harbaugh parents did something to clear the path for their boys and have stayed with them as supporters all the way to the Super Bowl.
It is clear by the reports of how Jim and John interacted with each other and what their parents did after the Super Bowl ended (consoling the losing coach rather than living in the glory with the winning one) that this family is filled with assets.
The Search Institute’s asset-building approach easily works with just about any parenting style and belief system. When I see the results of asset-building parenting live in the midst of a football game, I get a bit giddy. Whether we are parents or those “other caring adults” in a child’s life, we have a huge impact.
Who in your life helped you to get to where you are today? What did that person do?
What are we doing today to help them realize their dreams and go to the Super Bowl?
And who knows, maybe someday someone will teach me how to kick for a field goal!